Saturday, February 24, 2007
The deception people fall into
Andrea has jumped into another relationship head first, and it's pissing me off. I don't think what she is doing is healthy at all! It's LUST not LOVE......she doesn't realize this though. He doesn't respect her enough to listen to her. She wants to get her son River back, yet she continues to drink beer. Which is perfectly fine, but she's drinking more than she ever has now EVERY night. The two of them will polish off two 24packs no problem.
Then there was the night that she told him specifically that hard liquor and she DO NOT get along at all!!!!! Yet he still (after knowing this info) offered her a drink of his rum&coke. Whatever that's fine, you would think she would say no.......but then again you would think he would fucking respect her wishes enough not to even ask. Oh no, then he goes "well I didn't think you would drink the whole thing." Fuck that you fucking asshole!!!!!! He knew quite well that she was drunk enough not to even care, not to mention the fact that I was nowhere to be found, thus both of them getting away with it. What a fucking prick!
Now to top it all off, Andrea wants to move in with this guy. AAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!! She keeps telling everyone that "He's the one" well no, he's NOT "the one" he's not even backing her up on doing the right thing to get full custody of her son. If he was, like I said before he wouldn't be buying/supplying beer for her to drink EVERY night. She's fuckin' blinded by his stupid-ass looks and charms. Not to mention the fact that she loves his two daughters and they love her.
That's fine she can love them, but that doesn't mean she HAS to move in with the guy after knowing him for less than 2 months. Come on seriously it's so ridiculous, I mean why is she doing this to herself AGAIN??? She needs to be by herself for a while, to figure things out and come face to face with herself. She's scared to, yet she knows she's a strong person who can and will get through this. Jumping into a relationship like this is just taking the easy way out.
They said "I love you" the 2nd day they saw one another. It takes a lot to say those words to someone, you don't just throw them out there. You need to build a relationship with the person first, get to know what they're about and how they are in different situations. It takes more than one night to trust somebody fully. And if it doesn't, then you're way too trusting of a person and others will pick up on it and take full advantage you.
"Yeah yeah look who's talking" I know.....I myself have lots of trust issues, but I'm not afraid to admit to that and get to know myself first. Not to mention work through and understand why I have these issues, and where they stem from. In other words, I'm not afraid to show my emotions and get them out, and I understand that it doesn't mean that I'm a "weak" person if I decide to do so. In fact it's very healthy indeed, not to mention the fact that it's a great way to release stress from your life. I personally believe that in order for someone, truly to get to the point of knowing themselves, they must first be willing to admit to their strengths and weaknesses. Dig deep into your subconscious, tear it apart and piece it back together. In the end, hopefully you will not only be able to achieve that, but also fully understand why certain things are the way they are for them.
Sadly enough I don't believe Andrea has been able to go there yet. She's afraid of what she will see and find within herself. It makes me sad, because I know she knows she's a strong person. Why then is she still letting others stand in her way, being the brilliant person she is?? I don't know. Perhaps it's the same reason I myself am afraid to finish anything I start & start anything I might finish. I'm scared to know the truth...........the truth that I might actually succeed.
I hate when I'm right. Damnit!
Then there was the night that she told him specifically that hard liquor and she DO NOT get along at all!!!!! Yet he still (after knowing this info) offered her a drink of his rum&coke. Whatever that's fine, you would think she would say no.......but then again you would think he would fucking respect her wishes enough not to even ask. Oh no, then he goes "well I didn't think you would drink the whole thing." Fuck that you fucking asshole!!!!!! He knew quite well that she was drunk enough not to even care, not to mention the fact that I was nowhere to be found, thus both of them getting away with it. What a fucking prick!
Now to top it all off, Andrea wants to move in with this guy. AAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!! She keeps telling everyone that "He's the one" well no, he's NOT "the one" he's not even backing her up on doing the right thing to get full custody of her son. If he was, like I said before he wouldn't be buying/supplying beer for her to drink EVERY night. She's fuckin' blinded by his stupid-ass looks and charms. Not to mention the fact that she loves his two daughters and they love her.
That's fine she can love them, but that doesn't mean she HAS to move in with the guy after knowing him for less than 2 months. Come on seriously it's so ridiculous, I mean why is she doing this to herself AGAIN??? She needs to be by herself for a while, to figure things out and come face to face with herself. She's scared to, yet she knows she's a strong person who can and will get through this. Jumping into a relationship like this is just taking the easy way out.
They said "I love you" the 2nd day they saw one another. It takes a lot to say those words to someone, you don't just throw them out there. You need to build a relationship with the person first, get to know what they're about and how they are in different situations. It takes more than one night to trust somebody fully. And if it doesn't, then you're way too trusting of a person and others will pick up on it and take full advantage you.
"Yeah yeah look who's talking" I know.....I myself have lots of trust issues, but I'm not afraid to admit to that and get to know myself first. Not to mention work through and understand why I have these issues, and where they stem from. In other words, I'm not afraid to show my emotions and get them out, and I understand that it doesn't mean that I'm a "weak" person if I decide to do so. In fact it's very healthy indeed, not to mention the fact that it's a great way to release stress from your life. I personally believe that in order for someone, truly to get to the point of knowing themselves, they must first be willing to admit to their strengths and weaknesses. Dig deep into your subconscious, tear it apart and piece it back together. In the end, hopefully you will not only be able to achieve that, but also fully understand why certain things are the way they are for them.
Sadly enough I don't believe Andrea has been able to go there yet. She's afraid of what she will see and find within herself. It makes me sad, because I know she knows she's a strong person. Why then is she still letting others stand in her way, being the brilliant person she is?? I don't know. Perhaps it's the same reason I myself am afraid to finish anything I start & start anything I might finish. I'm scared to know the truth...........the truth that I might actually succeed.
I hate when I'm right. Damnit!
Friday, February 02, 2007
Revenge, River, & the Wrong way of going about things
So here i am typing away once again. I don't really know what it is i'm typing about but i've decided to just let it go and see what it is that comes to be. Yesterday, Andrea was trying to talk some sense into Andy....for he really is being very unfair to her. They broke up about 4months ago, and he is using their son River as a tool. It's sick and shallow. He's the one that broke up with her though he doesn't want to admit to it. He's in denial of being hurt and angry and all he wants is to get back at Andrea. That's not the way to go about things and revenge isn't going to solve a damn thing. He isn't putting River first and he knows it(well actually he's being to fucking stupid to realize it and it's not a good thing at all.) He has a lawyer and apparently isn't listening to what he has to say to him......Andy doesn't like to listen to anyone, unless of course he agrees with it. So I think he's just digging himself a deeper hole and he's not going to be able to get out of it. His mom's an alcoholic and just the other night admitted to Andrea that "You're just like my mother!" He associates most every drunk *female* to be just like his mom. So that being said, I also have a very big feeling that "yeah, he's trying to get back @ his own mother as well." That's wrong....it's not the right thing to do with a young child at all....poor River is being used like a fucking toy that Andy thinks he can have power over just because he has him in his court at the moment. He thinks everything is going to work out to his benefit and it's so sick. He is so emotionally unstable it's not even funny. He's in denial of a lot of things and when talking to him, it's like talking to a fucking brick wall. AAAAHHHHHHHHH! Anyway there's a lot more to it but i've gotta go right now. To be continued......
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